If you want real love, you have to let go of the ones who will just weigh you down. So which guys should you completely avoid in the dating world? By Charley Reid
Maybe you’ve been obsessed with Leonardo Dicaprio ever since you first saw Titanic, or maybe you’re into guys with tattoos like Adam Levine, or maybe you prefer someone goofy, sort of nerdy, like Jason Segel.
So when a guy comes along and fits the description of your perfect Hollywood dream boy, he can be your one true love, right? Wrong. There’s more to a guy than the aura he presents. And when you get a look into the inner workings of your so-called dream guy, you may be sorely disappointed. Don’t let yourself be fooled by charms, good looks and a smoking hot assortment of bedroom moves.
Which guys should you avoid dating?
If it’s love you want, you won’t find it in these guys. So when you come across them, just run the other way lest they heap their issues onto you.
#1 The mama’s boy. Have you been wasting your time dating a guy who literally can’t do anything without talking to his mom first? It’s fine to be close with your family, but if the guy can’t seem to make a move without his mommy’s approval, steer clear!
You should never be made to feel secondary in a relationship, especially if you’re after true love. Think about if you two were to have kids, and how many times he’ll have to call his mom for help and advice because he doesn’t know what to do, and he doesn’t listen to what you have to say because his ‘mom knows best.’ True love doesn’t create any competition or weird feelings.
#2 The musician. Musical guys are awesome. However, a guy who seems married to his guitar or to his drum set or to his band wouldn’t make for a good boyfriend. They are constantly on the road, picking up various gigs here and there, meeting groupies. Do you want to constantly be worrying about all the girls throwing themselves at your man?
And don’t get me started on the mood swings when he can’t find the right note or the right line to add to his song. You may become his muse, but his true love will always be his music.
#3 The brainiac. This is the guy who thinks he knows everything, and is always right. This is possibly a nerd who is obsessed with some esoteric scientific topic, and it’s hard trying to even have a normal conversation. Maybe what you thought was cute and unique in the beginning, is now actually just impossible and a bit strange, and you realize you do not see yourself growing old with someone like him.
Think of someone like the character, Sheldon Cooper in The Big Bang Theory, can you imagine dating someone like him? It can be really exhausting.
#4 The comedian. Have you been dating a guy because you think he’s funny and he can make you laugh? If so, wonderful, but what else do you like about him? The problem with this guy is that usually they love being the center of attention. So much so, that if you go out to eat with a group of friends, you’ll eventually find him standing up, putting on a “performance.”
The worst part is that there may be times when you want a serious conversation, but he just inserts a witty one liner that will completely ruin the mood.
#5 The cheater. There are so many people in this Universe, and you have so many options and people to meet, that you should not waste a single second with a guy who cheats on you. You need to get out there girl, meet and mingle with men who think before they act, and who treat you with the respect you deserve. If you stay with this guy, you will never have true love, but you will have a very broken heart.
#6 The banker and/or real estate dealer. These guys are full of empty promises and usually are very good at telling lies. They may be able to offer you a good life, but as quickly as they are able to put you up, they are just as easily able to put you down. These guys are constantly looking for the next best thing: the next house to flip, the next stock to invest, and this means that they have a habit of looking at relationships the same way. For your reference, check out The Wolf of Wall Street.
Sure, you might be the beautiful mansion today, until a newer, more updated one comes along. These guys are constantly playing games, telling people what they want to hear, and you are no exception to their rules. Their fixation on the next best material thing can really take its toll on your relationship.
#7 The Liar. This should be a given. A lie is a lie is a lie. Just like a cheater is a cheater. Oftentimes, liars and cheaters go hand-in-hand. It doesn’t matter if he lies to you about eating lunch, or about hanging out with friends, the point is he still lies. Trust is a requirement of true love, and you can’t expect to find it in a guy who lies through his teeth.
#8 The king of empty promises. This guy should pitch a tent in Las Vegas at a poker table because he’s so good at bluffing. This is the guy who tells you he loves you very early on in the relationship. And he will tell you basically anything and everything you’ve always wanted to hear.
For example, he will tell you he wants to have kids with you, that you two will get married, and that he’s planning a surprise trip for you two to take together soon. And in these moments, you think you’re falling in love with him, until you realize that none of the things he’s said he wanted to do have actually happened.
#9 The upgrader. This guy loves having things handed to him. He tends to stay in a relationship out of convenience. If you cook for him all the time, do his laundry, have sex, why would he want to leave? But what happens when a younger, hotter girl comes along? And what if she is totally cool with doing his laundry, cooking for him, and hooking up? Why would he want to stay in his decent relationship, when he can have one with someone younger and hotter?
You should be with someone who treats you the same way you treat them. Don’t be fooled into thinking you can earn his love by sacrificing your time for the sake of his happiness.
#10 The mooch. You might as well call this guy a pirate. This guy is the one who never has money, can’t ever do anything because he’s broke. It’s not like he can’t make money, but he has a philosophy of “why should I spend my money when I can spend someone else’s?”
Before you file for bankruptcy for the sake of this sorry loser, just run the other way. By doing this, who knows, you might make him realize that he needs to start working to sustain his lifestyle!
There are tons of men out there who seem like a great catch, but then their cover gets blown at the first red flag. Keep your eyes open and your mind sharp before these 10 guys can get a chance to take advantage of you.
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According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than 50 million Americans now suffer from arthritis. That equates to one in five people over 18 having some form of arthritis! (1) Arthritis is characterized by stiff, aching, hard to move joints and bones. The most common type of arthritis is osteoarthritis, which affects about 33 million American adults.
Osteoarthritis occurs when cartilage between bones and joints wears down, allowing bones to rub together rather than giving them the protection and cushion they need. Cartilage is made up of collagen and other substances that make connective tissue both flexible and strong. Cartilage covers the ends of bones where they meet the joints — and deterioration over time can affect the shape and functionality of the joints, making it painful and difficult to carry out everyday tasks.
Apart from nagging pain and loss of mobility, arthritis can also cause various complications. And unfortunately, most conventional treatments for arthritis don’t address its underlying causes — plus they can cause dependency long term and pose many side effects. Natural treatments for arthritis include eating an anti-inflammatory arthritis diet, staying active and mobile, receiving chiropractic adjustments or massage therapy and using healing essential oils to help control pain.
7 All-Natural Treatments for Arthritis
There are currently a number of alternative treatment options available for osteoarthritis sufferers, ranging from supplements to acupuncture. Many people who formerly suffered with osteoarthritis claim to have finally found relief naturally through adjusting their diets, lifestyles and approaches to managing pain. Here are the top seven natural treatments for arthritis.
1. Reach and Maintain a Healthy Weight
Additional body fat strains joints, but accumulated fat itself can also cause problems to joints that are already sensitive and partially damaged. Fat does more than just sit on your body — it’s also an active tissue that creates and releases hormones and chemicals. Some of these promote inflammation and can contribute to worsening arthritis all over your body.
The University of Michigan School of Public Health reports, “Adipose tissue, once considered a passive storage portal of energy, is now recognized as a highly metabolic endocrine organ with the capacity to secrete active agents including adipocytokines, such as leptin, resistin and adiponectin. Over the past decade, interest in these adipocytokines has quickly become an area of intense study with respect to osteoarthritis based on evidence that they may play an important role in cartilage homeostasis and because of their emerging potential as therapeutic targets.” (2)
Case in point: Some overweight or obese patients have arthritis in parts of their bodies such as their hands, which obviously don’t support much extra body weight but are still impacted by the negative effects of inflammation. An increase in stored fat cells can speed up the rate at which joints break down, especially in people who have other risk factors for arthritis. This means it’s important to try and maintain a healthy weight by eating an unprocessed, nutrient-dense diet, reducing stress and staying active.
2. Improve Your Diet
Foods for helping treat arthritis include:
Omega-3 foods: Omega-3s are powerful at lowering inflammation and also have other benefits. Wild-caught fish, including benefit-packed salmon, is your No. 1 food of choice. Other sources include grass-fed beef, flaxseeds, chia seeds and walnuts, which are all great choices.
Foods high in sulfur: Sulfur contains a form of methylsulfonylmethane (MSM) that reduces joint inflammation and helps rebuild your tissues. MSM has been shown in studies to lower pain and function impairment compared to placebo-controlled groups. Sources include onions, garlic, asparagus and cabbage.
Bone broth: Bone broth is one of the best natural sources of collagen, which contains the amino acids proline and glycine that help rebuild connective tissue and have many more benefits. Additionally, bone broth supples chondroitin sulphates and glucosamine, antioxidants that help lower inflammation, arthritis and joint pain.
High-antioxidant foods (especially fruits and vegetables): Colorful fruits and veggies are packed with antioxidants, vitamin C, vitamin A, fiber, magnesium, potassium, digestive enzymes and anti-inflammatory compounds. Some of the best sources include leafy greens, cruciferous veggies, berries, melon, papaya, avocado and pineapple.
High-fiber foods: Fiber helps control your appetite, is beneficial for digestive health and lowers the risk for various other diseases and complications. The best high-fiber foods include vegetables, fruit, ancient grains, soaked legumes/beans and nuts and seeds like flaxseeds, chia seeds and walnuts.
To help keep inflammation levels low, try to avoid these foods as part of a healing arthritis diet: excess sugar; hydrogenated oils (soybean oil, cottonseed oil, even canola oil); refined conventional grains like gluten, flour products and wheat products; and if you have an autoimmune disease, then also nightshade vegetables like potatoes, eggplant and tomatoes.
3. Stay Active
People with arthritis tend to be less active than those without arthritis, likely due to the pain they feel when exercising and moving stiff body parts. However, physical activity is important for joint health and in the long run, can actually help treat arthritis. Exercise is beneficial for strengthening the muscles around the affected joint, which provides added support and less strain.
Most experts consider movement an essential part of any arthritis treatment plan, even stating that it’s “the most effective non-drug treatment for reducing pain and improving movement in patients with osteoarthritis.” (3, 4) Regular activity has been shown to help lower inflammation, regulate hormones and can even help prevent unnecessary replacement surgeries.
Aim to do at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity or 75 minutes of vigorous-intensity exercise every week. Exercises that are most appropriate for people with arthritis include:
daily stretches for improved range of motion and flexibility
brisk walking for cardiovascular and immune benefits
aerobic exercises for building strength and endurance, including aquatic exercises, walking, jogging, bicycling, swimming or using the elliptical machine
strength training using light weights, cables or your own bodyweight exercises for resistance
4. Get Chiropractic Care
Chiropractors are often able to alleviate some of the pain associated with osteoarthritis. The type of treatment you get depends directly on the acuteness and severity of your specific case of osteoarthritis. Chiropractic adjustments and treatments for arthritis can include manipulation (sometimes called osteopathic manipulation) in the neck or lower back, spinal manipulation, massage therapy, training in biofeeback and relaxation therapies to help control pain. (5)
Similarly, studies have also found acupuncture to be helpful for reducing osteoarthritis pain. Medical schools and the National Institutes of Health now recommend acupuncture as a natural treatment for low back pain and many other conditions, including osteoarthritis. (6) Many chiropractic offices offer several additional holistic services, including acupuncture, herbal treatment, massage therapy and nutrition.
5. Take Proteolytic Enzymes
Proteolytic enzymes aid in digestion by helping provide important enzymes that are normally produced by your digestive organs to metabolize foods. These enzymes can include trypsin and chymotrypsin (both produced by your pancreas), papain and bromelain. Proteolytic enzymes are obtained from things like tropical fruits, including papaya, which contains papain, and pineapples, which contain bromelain.
Proteolytic enzymes have been found to have anti-inflammatory effects because they help improve overall gut health and immunity. Some research shows they can decrease pain and swelling associated with rheumatoid arthritis, increase mobility in people with osteoarthritis and fight infections by controlling inflammatory responses. (7) Doses vary depending on the kind of enzymes, but recommendations are usually around 500 milligrams to 2,000 milligrams taken three times a day between meals.
6. Consume Ginger and Turmeric
Ginger contains chemicals that may have analgesic and anti-inflammatory effects on the body. In research studies, ginger has been shown to lessen pain associated with arthritis and improve overall digestive/gut health. A 2005 report published in the Journal of Medicinal Foods stated that ginger extract derived from Zingiber officinale and Alpina galanga plant species inhibits the induction of several genes involved in the inflammatory response. These include genes encoding cytokines, chemokines and the inducible enzyme cyclooxygenase. (8)
More than 100 active components have been isolated from turmeric, including special substances found in turmeric’s volatile oils called turmerone, curcumin, demethoxycurcumin, 5'-methoxycurcumin and dihydrocurcumin. (9) The most active ingredient in turmeric is considered to be curcumin, which is known to be one of the most powerful natural anti-inflammatories there is. The potential anti-arthritic effects of turmeric include inhibition of joint inflammation, reduction in edema and/or swelling and slowed periarticular joint destruction.
Turmeric has been researched in dozens of studies, many investigating its painkilling effects in relation to inflammatory conditions. One study conducted by Nirmala Medical Centre in India investigated the effects of turmeric supplements given to rheumatoid arthritis patients compared to use of conventional arthritis drugs (diclofenac sodium) or a combination of both together. The curcumin group showed the highest percentage of improvements overall, significantly better than the patients in the diclofenac sodium groups, and with practically no negative side effects. (10)
7. Use Boswellia Essential Oil (Frankincense)
Known as Indian frankincense, this potent supplement helps reduce inflammation. Boswellia can be found in several concentrated forms, including a therapeutic-grade oil that can be massaged directly into the skin over painful areas. Boswellia serrata extract is so powerful that today it’s considered comparable to NSAID pain relievers.
According to the Indian Journal of Pharmaceutical Science, bowellia/frankincense oil is capable of reducing arthritis pain through several mechanisms: supporting overall immune function, interfering with cytokine production that raises inflammation, delaying reactions to sensitivities, helping regulate lymphocytes (white blood cells) and T-cells interactions and reducing autoimmune effects related to immunoglobulin G antibodies. (11)
Combine several drops of pure frankincense oil with a carrier oil like coconut oil, and apply to the painful joint area several times daily. Other beneficial essential oils for arthritis that can be used in similar ways include myrrh, turmeric, ginger, orange, peppermint and lavender oils.
8. Add Comfrey to Topical Creams
Comfrey, a medicinal herb shown to help with pain, makes a great addition to any topical treatment for arthritis. In fact, researchers at the School of Health and Sport Sciences at the University of the Sunshine Coast in Australia reviewed a cohort of studies on topical herbal therapies for treating osteoarthritis. They found that “comfrey extract gel probably improves pain.” (12)
Additionally, research published in the Journal of Chiropractic Medicine examined 43 male and female subjects, aged 45–83, diagnosed with osteoarthritis in the knee and randomly assigned them to one of three groups: 10 percent or 20 percent comfrey root extract or a placebo. The participants applied cream three times a day for six weeks and were evaluated every two weeks.
The results showed that “both active topical comfrey formulations were effective in relieving pain and stiffness and in improving physical functioning and were superior to placebo in those with primary osteoarthritis of the knee without serious adverse effects.” (13)
Facts About Arthritis
Arthritis is the No. 1 cause of disability in the U.S.
An estimated 50 percent of adults living in the U.S. who are over the age of 65 now report receiving a diagnoses of arthritis from their doctors.
Arthritis doesn’t just impact the older groups of Americans either — almost 300,000 babies and children have arthritis or a rheumatic condition! Two-thirds of people with arthritis are under the age of 65.
It’s now estimated that by 2030 there will be 67 million Americans over the age of 18 suffering with arthritis.
Arthritis, especially osteoarthritis, is more common among women. Around 26 percent of adult women have arthritis compared to 18 percent of adult men.
People with arthritis or a rheumatic condition lose more workdays every year due to illness or injury than adults with any other medical condition, are more likely to be unemployed, have much higher medical costs yearly, and are likely to suffer at least some sort of physical disability.
Among adults with arthritis, around 47 percent have at least one other disease or condition, including heart disease, diabetes, obesity, anxiety, depression, gout or high blood pressure.
Arthritis among children is also an unfortunate reality. Called juvenile arthritis, it affects nearly 300,000 children under the age 18 in the U.S.. The most common type is juvenile idiopathic arthritis (meaning the cause is unknown). There are several other forms of arthritis affecting children. Classified as an autoimmune disorder, most specialists believe that juvenile arthritis is something in a child’s genes (passed from parents to children) makes the child more likely to get arthritis, and something like a virus then sets off the arthritis. The most common symptoms of juvenile arthritis include the swelling of joints, pain along with stiffness that doesn’t dissipate. Juvenile arthritis affects the knees, hands, and feet, and it’s worse after a night’s rest or a nap. (14a)
Symptoms of Arthritis
Hallmark warning signs and symptoms of arthritis include:
Joint pain: Pain intensity varies from person to person, depending on the location in the body, and might come and go depending on other lifestyle factors.
Signs of inflammation and swelling: You might be able to notice swelling and fluid retention through your skin over the affected joint. Joints can also become red, warm and tender, which are signs of swelling.
Stiffness: Stiff joints affect most people with arthritis and tend to be worse when standing, laying or sitting in one position for long periods.
Decreased range of motion and loss of flexibility
While the symptoms of arthritis vary from person to person, the two most common are stiffness and pain. This is especially the case with osteoarthritis, which often causes the most intense stiffness first thing after waking up in the morning. (14b) The Arthritis Foundation points out that “if you experience morning stiffness that lasts longer than an hour, this is a good reason to suspect arthritis. It also shouldn’t be that hard or painful to get up from your favorite chair.” (15)
Some joints are more commonly impacted by arthritis/osteoarthritis than others, including those located in: (16)
The lower back
Hips
Knees
Feet
Neck
Fingers
Thumb base
If you suffer with osteoarthritis in one of these places, you may have difficulty with movement in general and doing any of the follow activities:
Walking
Climbing stairs
Lifting objects
Grasping or holding objects
Doing intricate, detailed work, such as knitting or needlepoint
Squatting down
Lifting your legs
Arthritis can also cause complications. Fluid can accumulate in the affected joint, and levels of a beneficial chemical hormone called hyaluronan can decline, which means joints are less protected from the effects of shock and pressure. Another common complication associated with osteoarthritis is free-floating bone or cartilage within joint fluid, causing irritation and sometimes developing into painful bone spurs.
A less common complication of longstanding, severe rheumatoid arthritis is called rheumatoid vasculitis, which occurs in about 1 percent of this patient population. (16a) In such cases, a treatment plan is normally outlined by a rheumatologist.
What Are the Causes of Arthritis/Osteoarthritis?
Experts still don’t know of one concrete cause for all cases of degenerative joint diseases, including osteoarthritis. Rather, it’s believed that the cause of arthritis is multifactorial and depends on a combination of genetic and lifestyle factors. Some of the factors believed to contribute to arthritis/osteoarthritis most include:
Genetic susceptibility: Arthritis is known to run in families, although having a family history isn’t a guarantee you’ll develop arthritis. The World Journal of Orthopedics reports that the human leukocyte antigen region in the human genome is the most heterogeneous, and many diseases are known to be associated with this region, including arthritis. One theory linking genetics to arthritis is that people with osteoarthritis might have a genetic defect in the gene that controls the production of collagen. Collagen is important for making cartilage, so slowed production can lead to faster joint deterioration. Certain people might also have genes that result in slight malformations of bones and joints, leading to uneven cartilage and problems associated with how joints rub up against one another. (17)
Weight: Being overweight or obese increases your risk because excess weight puts added pressure on your joints. Your hips and knees bear most of your body’s weight and are especially susceptible to added strain and stress. According to Arthritis Today, for every pound of weight you gain you put an additional four pounds of extra weight on your knees. While one in five Americans has been diagnosed with arthritis, according to the CDC)that number jumps to more than one in three among obese people. (18)
Injury: Trauma or injury to joints trigger the process of cartilage loss and deterioration.
Overuse: Repetitive movements for many years, overtraining or exercising without enough rest between workouts are risk factors.
Infections: Examples of organisms that can infect joints are salmonella and shigella (food poisoning or contamination), chlamydia and gonorrhea (sexually transmitted diseases), and hepatitis C.
Rheumatoid arthritis (RA): RA is an autoimmune disease that causes the immune system to attack the body’s own healthy joint tissue. This can be in reaction to gut-related problems (like leaky gut syndrome or food allergies) and other factors like high amounts of stress and toxicity.
Other medical conditions: Having other health problems like diabetes or an autoimmune disorder can raise your risk for arthritis. Gout and metabolic problems like uric acid buildup also contribute to arthritis because they cause crystal-like particles to develop in the joints, resulting in sudden spikes of extreme joint pain.
Different forms of arthritis have different root causes. Rheumatoid arthritis and psoriatic arthritis are examples of “inflammatory arthritis,” also described as autoimmune arthritis. This occurs when the immune system generates internal inflammation to get rid of perceived threats (like an infection or allergy) and mistakenly causes joint erosion and sometimes organ damage. These forms of arthritis are especially important to treat as early on as possible, since tissue damage can be hard to reverse once it sets in. Inflammatory arthritis is believed to be highly tied to gut health, which means a healthy diet is key for recovery.
Conventional Treatments for Arthritis
Different types of arthritis are treated conventionally by rheumatologists. Rheumatology is a sub-specialty in internal medicine and revolves around the diagnosis and therapy of rheumatic diseases. Rheumatology involves studying diseases can affect the joints, muscles and bones, often causing pain, swelling, stiffness and even deformity.
The most common type of treatment for arthritis is pharmaceutical drugs. Those that are most often prescribed to manage osteoarthritis are analgesics. These drugs are used to treat only the pain, but not also inflammation or the underlying causes of arthritis.
Four common prescription analgesics used to treat osteoarthritis pain include:
Percocet
Darvocet
Oxycontin
Duragesic
Not only do these medications pose many potential side effects, but they can also be very addicting. The FDA requires a label warning of risks associated with these prescriptions, including heart attack, stroke and stomach bleeding. These strong pain relievers contain narcotics that lower pain by blocking receptors on nerve cells but don’t treat inflammation and have high rates of dependency. (19)
For dealing with very bad pain, over-the-counter drugs might be helpful temporarily, every now and then. Acetaminophen (Tylenol) is the most commonly recommended and most widely available analgesic recommended for osteoarthritis pain, and it’s sometimes used in combination with other drugs or supplements. NSAID painkillers are also commonly used to help control both pain and inflammation (including Advil, Bayer, Aleve and Motrin), but again, over-the-counter painkillers won’t treat underlying causes.
If you want to avoid the risk and side effects of prescription painkilling drugs, the alternative natural treatments for arthritis above can greatly help control your pain and help your condition. (20)
Final Thoughts on Natural Treatments for Arthritis
Arthritis is the No. 1 cause of disability in the U.S.
According to the CDC, more than 50 million Americans have arthritis, which is one in five people over 18. The most common type is osteoarthritis, which affects about 33 million American adults.
An estimated 50 percent of adults living in the U.S. who are over the age of 65 now report receiving a diagnoses of arthritis from their doctors. Arthritis doesn’t just impact the older groups of Americans either — almost 300,000 babies and children have arthritis or a rheumatic condition! Two-thirds of people with arthritis are under the age of 65.
Symptoms of arthritis include join pain, inflammation, swelling, stiffness, decreased range of motion and loss of flexibility.
Some of the most commonly impacted joints are located in the lower back, hips, knees, feet, neck, fingers and thumb base.
There’s no concrete cause for all cases of arthritis, but factors that are believed to contribute to arthritis include genetic susceptibility, weight, injury, overuse, infections, autoimmune disorders and other medical conditions.
In my opinion, the top seven natural treatments for arthritis include reaching and maintaining a healthy weight, improving your diet, staying active, getting chiropractic care, taking proteolytic enzymes, consuming ginger and turmeric and using boswellia essential oil.