Before i decided to write about mastur'bation addiction i had to make a quick research to see what others wrote about the topic. The weird thing i noticed is that i didn't come across any article that said that mastur'bation addiction is a problem or that its something that has any harmful effects.
While mastur'bation addiction might have no physical health effects still it can have many harmful psychological effects on the person. In this article i will tell you how to stop mastur'bation addiction after telling you about its harmful effects.
How Mastur'bation can affect your psychological well being
One of the most destructive emotions a person can experience is guilt especially if it was repetitive. Because most known religious and religious scriptures condemn mastur'bation any person who believes in any of these religions will experience guilt after masturbating even if he didn't notice its presence.
The guilt in this case will keep accumulating and increasing as long as the person is addicted to mastur'bation until one day he will find himself depressed without knowing why.(see What causes depression)
Even if you don't believe in any religion that condemns mastur'bation still masturbating can affect you psychologically by reminding you of the fact that you can't get into a true relationship or that you fear intimacy.
Mastur'bation addiction causes
So why would someone become addicted to mastur'bation?
and Why do some married people become addicted to mastur'bation even though they have another option?
Here are some psychological causes for mastur'bation addiction:
Lack of intimacy: Believe it or not. Some people need s*x to fill the gap resulting from the need of intimacy. Many of the people who are obsessed about s*x (not all of them) have unmet need for intimacy. Their parents might have ignored their needs when they were little children or they might have never felt loved before and that's why their unconscious desire for s*x became much higher. Certainly its so normal that human beings have a certain desire for s*x but when this desire exceeds the limits and leads to excessive mastur'bation then this means that there is another unmet need that this person is trying to satisfy other than the need for s*x itself. (see I need to be loved)
Social withdrawal: In the ultimate guide to breaking porn and mastur'bation addiction i said that Social withdrawal and mastur'bation addiction are highly connected. Usually when the person is excessively shy, when he doesn't have a good social life or when he fails to get the approval of the members of the other s*x then he might turn to mastur'bation addiction to fulfill such psychological needs (see social Isolation causes and treatment)
Bad moods & life problems: Some people have developed the habit of escaping from problems instead of facing them. One of the methods those people use to escape from problems is mastur'bation addiction. If you are one of those people then you will notice that you masturbate whenever you feel bad, down or sad (see What is real courage)
Rejection: This might sound weird too but it was found that experiencing rejection especially from the other s*x is one of the factors that motivates people to become addicted to mastur'bation (see How to overcome rejection)
Fear of intimacy: Some people have developed fear of intimacy as a result of going through poor past experiences with the other s*x. Those are the people who become addicted to mastur'bation even though they are married. (see Fear of commitment and intimacy)
Stopping mastur'bation addiction
Once you understand the fact that mastur'bation addiction itself is not the problem but rather a symptom for a bigger underlying problem you will easily be able to get over this addiction by dealing with the root cause.
If the root cause behind your mastur'bation addiction was shyness, social withdrawal or even the feeling that you are not loved then you should shift your focus and energy to treating these problems.
In my book The ultimate guide to breaking bad habits i said that even if you managed to give up mastur'bation addiction without dealing with these problems sooner or later other symptoms, like drug abuse for example, will replace mastur'bation addiction.
Cut the root in order to prevent more unwanted symptoms from appearing in your life.